We all know how everyone is on the edge right now. The lockdown is doing most people no good.
To be honest, most partners will separate, others will have frequent tension but no one is to be blamed. It all caused by the stay at home.
There is a lot to learn, unlearn, and relearn about your partner now.
Take note of the cleanliness, how you behave with co-workers since everyone now works from home.
If you’re among the group who is going through toxicity in their love life right now and you would want to know how to prepare to get things right, hang in there!
There are ways to fix it.
Talk out your anxieties and fears
Right now, people are stuck in between fear of contracting the virus and losing a loved one.
We are all in a state of confusion and panic. It's okay to be scared.
What is not okay is bottling it up and letting it take a toll on you. What is not okay is transferring the depression to your partner.
You have to sit and talk things out with him or her. Communication is the key. He/she won't know whatever is bothering you unless you speak out.
A problem shared is a problem half solved. Feel free to talk with your spouse and watch how much you will enjoy the ride.
Make Out Time to Have Fun Together
We may now be stuck indoors but the fun doesn't necessarily mean going out.
Research shows that laughter reduces stress.
You could see a movie together in your living room if you are married. For couples that are not married and do not live together, you can Facetime every day and talk about random stuff.
This is a time to know and appreciate each other.
Get to know what makes you smile. Having fun helps you guys to stick together and not fall out of love.
Embrace Your Differences
Not being able to adjust to the fact that you are two different individuals is a problem.
Take out time, utilize this opportunity presented by the lockdown to study your partner very well.
Get to know who they are and try to understand. For instance, you may like to watch corona news update first thing every morning while he detests it.
This difference does not mean the relationship is over. Instead, try to adjust to ones you can and discuss the unacceptable ones.
Give Each Other Space, Physically and Emotionally
No matter how much some of us lie to ourselves about this, we all love our alone time.
Most people out there need some time for themselves. Having your own time helps you to think straight and set some things right.
Sometimes, you make big decisions when you are alone. If you are together in this period, you don't necessarily need to tell your partner that you need your space. It can make them cringe.
Simply say you need two hours to read a book or something. You may also choose to take online yoga classes or a 10 minutes meditation session to balance your chakras.
Enjoy your time and don't always feel guilty about it. The lockdown is doing us no good already, don't go further by complicating issues.
Take Turns Expressing Gratitude for the Good in Your Lives
Speaking a few nice things is not bad at all.
Tell each how much you are in love. Express gratitude over your safety.
Say to one another what you admire about each other. Tell her how hot her nightie looks on her. Tell him how cute his abs look.
No one envisaged for a situation like this so the least you can do is keep each other happy. No matter how hard it is.
Try.
Create Some Structure for Yourself and Each Other
Married or not, most couples are not usually together all day.
When the world was normal, we got used to leaving the house every day. So now that we have been forced to be in each other's face, conflict and tension will probably arise.
In a case like this, create and restructure the activities in your daily schedule.
It goes a long way to help and calm down the situation.
When Things Get Hard, Give It a Break
This is the most difficult period everyone is facing now.
No relationship is perfect so a fight is bound to happen. Tension is bound to occur.
The emotional stress that comes with the lockdown can make you vent anger on your partner for no reason. Don't panic it's normal.
When it happens like this you can just go to the other room for a while. Listen to songs that soothe the heart.
Write and pour out your feelings in a diary. Type a text you would want to send him or her but don't send it, it's just a way of making you feel alright.
Sit down alone at the balcony to get some air. Just do something that will keep your head and thoughts off the negative energy.
The ability of you two to get through with the pandemic is a sign that the relationship is destined to last forever.
Keep it Sensual
Instead of always trying to pick a hole where there is none, you guys should channel that energy into exploring and improving your sexuality.
Learn the sex language your partner understands. Read love poetry together.
Medically, orgasms relieve you of stress and tension. So have more sex this period especially if you are married or live together. Spice up your bedroom activities.
Rekindle the glowing splint. It may not be easy but just seize the opportunity anytime it comes.
This is a trial period for everyone in the world now. The young, old, black, and white.
Most of us will find it more difficult judging from how quick we are to reactions. We all should just try and stay strong. Believe that this too shall pass.
No one knows when this whole thing will end but until then, stay happy always.