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Now that we are in the full swing of summer, it can feel like a switch has gone off. For me, the polluted humid city air is acceptable simply because summer weekends feel so damn good. When summer feels this good, it can be hard to keep commitments, especially in a relationship. Just like the weather, monogamy seems to get a little hazy.

Why is it, that even when in the best relationship summer is understood to be no cuffing season? Why does summertime challenge relationships?

The Heat Makes Us Hedonistic?

Once the temperature breaks 80 degrees, clothing gets thinner and shorter. Skin gets dewy and perfectly toned. Is the change in how much more body we can show and see all the difference?

Studies have shown that the increase in Vitamin D in the summer time can drive up libido. Testosterone and estrogen hormones help in driving sexual desire, and increases with an increase in Vitamin D. So when bae says they need their Vitamin D, they mean it!

Summertime sunshine truly does have the science to turn us on. According to Ashwini Nadkarni M.D., sunlight is associated to serotonin. This neurotransmitter help us experience pleasure , so jack up the sunlight and hello horniness!

With Heat, We Want Space

Putting scientific facts aside, there could also be some other reasons why a summer romances can feel more attractive than monogamy.

Summers are louder and hotter than other seasons. So with the little quiet time that you can get, to share if can feel like even more of a sacrifice!

With the increase in sunlight, sometimes we want to recharge, and recharging is a solo journey.

As much as the heat can make us feel sexy, it can also make us feel… wait for it… moist. That moisture can make us feel lethargic, and unwilling be up under our bae’s hot breath.

Desire For Passion

In more seasoned relationships, summer can be less of a sizzle and lot more sticky. It’s that moisture coming back around. The bed becomes a no cuddle zone.

Unlike summer romances, when someone is familiar, the need to touch when it is hot outside is considered an unnecessary discomfort. The high temperatures can burn us out.

The Need For The Hunt

Summer sun gets our skin looking right and bumps up our mood. With that kind of combo there is a desire to be seen and desired after.

In monogamous relationships, keeping that sexy hunger for each other can be hard, even in the summer months.

So, to be able to wear less clothes and get more attention with a summer romance can be very attractive.

Summer Spontaneity

Summer flings are exciting, sex and new. Every touch, and handle hold is a first and energetic. Something about summer can make there be a need for something different.

Are Relationships Doomed?

Even after laying out all the reasons for the contrary, I still very much believe that summer can be used to spice up a relationship.

Sure summer sun can help increase our sex hormones, and we can use that in our relationships! We can use that increase in libido to turn up our sex with our partners.

In any relationship, there can be space for needed “self time.” Just because you’re with someone does not mean you have to be up under each other, and with that summer heat you won’t want to me. A need for space can come with clear boundaries and communication.

So in my humble opinion, summer does not only have to be helpful for summertime romances and single folk. Folks in a relationship can enjoy it too. We just have to know how to take advantage.

The F.U.Q.s

Sex and summer go hand in hand. But so does the need to do your own thing and feel good about it.
With all the events going on in the summer, it can be a great time to keep a relationship spontaneous and spicy.
Whether you are single, have one bae, or 6, don’t deprive yourself of some good lovin under the sun.