What is your memory from the first time you had morning sex? With West Indian parents who were cool, but not that cool, learning the ways around morning sex was something I didn’t have to worry about for a while. But now, I know the importance of morning sex is crucial to my sexual and personal happiness. Below is how.
When Is Morning Sex Even Real
College was the first time I was really confronted with morning sex. In high school – morning sex was never really an option for me. And even if it was, the morning was reserved for sneaking out, not about round two in the sheets.
So in college, with my first adult-ish relationship is when mornings, and morning sex because a new “thing” to figure out. College was a time when my hairstyles were, rough more often than they were cute, my life was a lot of pieces kind of put together, and I had a dorm roommate. So planning out how to deal with a man in the morning was the last thing on my mind.
The logistics of figuring out how to have a cute morning with a man, while also dealing with a roommate was tricky. After being caught trying to have silent sex while my roommate was asleep, we quickly learned that his dorm was the better option.
But that also meant that I was in unfamiliar territory. Should I bring a hair scarf to sleep in? Or should I pretend I don’t use one by snatching it off before he gets up. Morning breath is real – how can I sneak out into the hall without being caught by a floormate? Should I have sex with him again or was quick exit better?
Morning sex only got more complicated after college, when its not like had a shower caddy full of goodies in the bathroom of every guy I slept with. Sometimes it just seemed easier to avoid morning sex, especially with someone I didn’t take seriously. A one night- stand could only have sex that one night – I mean, it’s in the name.
Is Morning Sex Even Worth It?
So my morning sex started out as a one-woman show. I would whip out my vibrator, turn it onto level two- to get the stronger vibrations without too loud a buzz- and give my clitoris it’s morning treat. And I felt incredible! After cuming, my entire body felt it was charged and ready for the day. Anxiety that usually started my day was pushed aside.
Why is Morning Sex So Powerful?
High hormone levels
For one, we have a higher level of hormones at work in the morning. Morning sex can be incredibly satisfying because, for women and men, estrogen and testosterone levels are at their peak. So basically, both men and women’s libido’s are ready to go.
Soft touches and strong grabs feel incredible in the morning, especially when followed up with some great, slow, meaningful head. With our bodies being more sensitive, each touch and lick is doubled.
The glow up
The glow up is real y’all. Morning sex can actually be a great way to get your morning started off right. Sex is a natural stress reliever. If you are like me, who an orgasm is definitely preferred to the load of thoughts and anxiety, I’m used to waking up to. A person and woman of color, a stress reliever is nothing to think small of.
And baybeh, please do not sleep on the endorphins! Sex helps to release endorphins into your body. Endorphins help with pain management. So tag team that with the stress reliever, my days is off to a much better start.
Simple Rules to Morning Sex
Since graduating, I have had a good share or morning sex. It has not always been pretty, and I have had to learn some lessons on how to handle morning sex with a short term and long-term partner. Here are some go-to tips
Morning Breath
Morning breath has proven to be a serious mood killer. Hot breath up your nose firs thing in the morning is insufferable.
I have to admit that I have seriously judged some one night stands off of their morning breath. It made it really easy to run out of their apartment and their life. Its nasty – that’s just a fact.
If you don’t care about morning funk carry on, but for those of you who do, there are some easy ways to deal with morning breath. Leaving some mouthwash or water by your bed can keep things fresh. If you forget, try to avoid getting all in your partner’s face. For me, I’ve been more likely to want to have some morning sex and less likely to delete and block your number.
Body Odor
Breath is not the only funk in the morning. Freshness is huge for us black folk and your partner should know that. If you want a sex partner like me to give you some morning head or let you anywhere near me, your bodily odors will need to be in check. You know if your body has some strange smells in the morning, so get ahead of it! After a night of partying, if my partner’s bathroom is acceptably clean, I have definitely taken a shower before having sex.
And do not think it is your job to deal with a funky yoni or penis. Ladies and gent’s, vaginas and penises do have a natural scent, but you can easily smell the difference between a normal and off putting scent. If it is funky, you have every right to let them know and request they tidy up. If they don’t- peace out.
In my experience, morning sex can start out awkward but it really can be a great and healthy way to start your day. In a shorter-term relationship, get your last orgasm in before hitting the road. If you are in a longer-term relationship, enjoy morning sex the right way with your partner.
The FUQs
Morning sex is highly pleasurable because of the increase in hormones, relaxation and endorphins that it can produce.
Morning sex can be enjoyed with someone you’ve known forever or someone that you have just met
You don’t always have to wait until nightfall to feel sexy. Before a big presentation, hectic workweek, or long crazy day, morning sex can really help you out.
